Marry me or you're evicted!!

[Cookie's Mum]

Send this to the Scriptwriters at Eastenders..........it will definately spice up their storylines for next month:cool:

 

lol - good one - at least after a few spritzers I can laugh about it! - Looks like I need to nip to the bank for bail money tomorrow as new guy is planning on rearranging the landlord's undercarriage now!

[gizmo111]

the landlord being there intruded on the OPs privacy and affected her enjoyment of the property. By letting himself in without notice or without there being an emergency he also violated her rights, there may be harrassment charges to look at as well.

 

But for some of the time she was sleeping with him - may cloud a judges viewpoint.

[Cookie's Mum]

 

But for some of the time she was sleeping with him - may cloud a judges viewpoint.

 

Hadn't been sleeping with him for two or three years at least. He just couldn't take "naff off" as an answer.

[MARTIN3030]

lol - good one - at least after a few spritzers I can laugh about it! - Looks like I need to nip to the bank for bail money tomorrow as new guy is planning on rearranging the landlord's undercarriage now!

 

 

Well you should be able to save a few bob on flowers if you can wait till October.......always a quiet month for the flower shops

Intaflora usually have a sale on.......

[Cookie's Mum]

It would be but there is other evidence...at a basic level the evidence is your living there and paying rent. No court will accept your word alone about such an agreement which allowed you a tenancy for life.....

 

Tenancies for life/ life interests are a different story altogether and may be required to be evidenced in writing....

 

Would this do S J?

 

Extract from his solicitors letter to him regarding his will and confirming points and details. He gave me a copy for my information.

 

"Jane will continue to occupy (name of house) and will continue to pay rent. If she remains in occupation of the property at the date of your death, then you want to make provision for your Executors to continue with the letting, but without giving Jane an option to purchase." This was followed with a note in his own hand (No. option to purchase - yes).

 

He explained that he had contacted his solicitor and had the relevant section altered to give me the option to purchase. He had always told me that I would be able to rent and stay at the house for as long as I liked. I had expressed worries that I might find myself being forced to leave the house, possibly even in old age, should anything happen to him and his family wanted to sell the house. He ensured my security for me by making this provision so that his family could not sell the house from under me should anything happen to him. I appreciate that he can change his will every other week if he likes, but isn't this evidence of an agreement? I have the envelope that the letter came in too, which has "Jane, for information" in his hand on the outside.

[Guest S J]

No...this is evidence of his intention at a particular time and nothing more. It still does not confer upon you a life interest. All it means is that you being the tenant, if you are still the tenant at the time of is death you will have first right of refusal before the beneficiaries of the estate decide to sell on the open market...nothing more than that.

[Cookie's Mum]

...... you will have first right of refusal before the beneficiaries of the estate decide to sell on the open market...nothing more than that.

 

more than first refusal "to make provision for your Executors to continue with the letting...." In other words they are not to sell on the open market at all!

[freebird]

OMG and I thought my life was complicated...........I won't even go there !

 

I can not offer you any legal advice I'm sorry. Just maybe a personal angle.

 

You say your new guy is understanding and is going along with everything, but I can't help thinking that when we're in love sometimes we DO go along with things even if we're not too comfortable with it. I'm actually wondering if the best thing would be for you and your new fella to make a clean break and start again, with all the personal baggage behind you both. Yes you love the house and it probably has some nice memories for you but WOW...it also has your Ex written all over it......it's HIS and remains the only thing that he has OVER you...and boy does he have that over you..he knows your achillies heels and he's not letting go of you or your emotions..........please, please consider moving.....I know it's a really big change in your life but you'll all be better off beleive me.......I'm not prying in to your personal circumstances but couldn't you and your partner share the load and go halfs for something ?

I'm know what I'm suggesting is a really big move but I've been there beleive me and many moons ago I crossed the atlantic to get rid of someone !!!!!!!!another story.............

please do it and good luck :-}

[Guest S J]

I'm affraid you are reading too much into it...all that phrase means is that the executors will inherit the tenancy along with the property. They become your new landlord. They can also decide not to renew the tenancy or seek possession of the property.

 

Hyperthetically speaking (not wanting to give anyone any ideas) if I was your landlord and I wanted to keep Mr X out...I would insert a forfeiture clause exluding him from the property to prevent you from siging it just to get the fixed term and then doing as you pleased. That way the tenancy could be forfeited within the fixed term.

 

Are sure there isnt anythin like that in it....??

[Cookie's Mum]

Thanks SJ

 

have already checked that one out with law centre who say that he CANNOT write anything like that into an agreement. The only right he would have is if Mr X was being a nuisance to neighbours, causing wilful damage etc. Then he could take action. (The tenancy agreement is in my name - obviously he would not issue a joint one!)

[Guest S J]

You could make things a lot easier by:

 

1) marrying him;

 

2) finding another property to let

[Cookie's Mum]

Freebird

 

I know you are right but my divorce is being finalised at the minute, with sale of our house etc. and I have no cash for a new mortgage till that comes through. At least the 18 months will buy me breathing space and a sensible period in which to prepare for "the big move".

 

I've bought furniture etc for a large house over the last seven and a half years, so I'll need to get rid of stuff if I'm going to have to downsize. I really need some more time to get sorted and although it may be lying, cheating and lots of things I hate, I can justify my actions to my own conscience in tricking him into giving me a further 18 months by the way he has treated me over the years (including mental and physical abuse). The man is a total control freak and he may think he his controlling me this time, but once he signs he will find out "no more!" He deserves everything he gets!

[freebird]

I know where you're coming from and I empathise, beleive me.

 

I just want you to have peace for the next 18 months.

 

Is there no way your new partner could help you out to finance a temp flat or storage for your furniture for your future home. I just have a gut feeling that you need to be as far away from the other creep as possible. He's a very negative and destructive force in your life and you need permanent rid !

 

I'm not in your shoes and you must go with your own feelings but the sooner you're 'rid the better.

 

x

[Guest S J]

You will just have to hope that he doesnt stumble across this thread.....

[Cookie's Mum]

ROFLMAO SJ!

 

If I told him there was a thread on the computer containing all the details about what a freak he is, he'd be looking all round it with a magnifying glass and a pair of scissors trying to cut the USB cables off! This guy is such a technophobe! He has finally managed to open his own e-mails, but despite my attempts to show him he still cannot reply to them, I have to do it for him.

 

Think I'm pretty safe here!

[Boobaby]

Freebird

 

I know you are right but my divorce is being finalised at the minute, with sale of our house etc. and I have no cash for a new mortgage till that comes through. At least the 18 months will buy me breathing space and a sensible period in which to prepare for "the big move".

 

I've bought furniture etc for a large house over the last seven and a half years, so I'll need to get rid of stuff if I'm going to have to downsize. I really need some more time to get sorted and although it may be lying, cheating and lots of things I hate, I can justify my actions to my own conscience in tricking him into giving me a further 18 months by the way he has treated me over the years (including mental and physical abuse). The man is a total control freak and he may think he his controlling me this time, but once he signs he will find out "no more!" He deserves everything he gets!

 

Seems to me Cookies Mum that you've gone all round the houses (so to speak) and you've come up with a solution yourself!!

If you can't really bear to move then that seems the obvious answer, I just hope that BF goes along with it and that ex future groom really does take 'naff off' seriously or as Martin3030 said you really would be in need of interflora services...

Good luck I hope it works out!

Boo