When my dad died suddenly (many years ago now) I had to get the 1st available flight to America. Guess what - I forgot to make arrangements to pay my 2 credit card bills in my absence (silly me ) When I got back I contacted the card companies. One of them simply told me I should have thought of the consequences before defaulting on payment (the %!?%! %!?%!) The other company wrote a really nice letter of sympathy (although they didn't refund the charges). However, they were so nice that, by then, I frankly didn't care that they'd charged me!! Shows what good customer relations can do!!
I'm sorry to hear of your loss, MaxineGD, & I wish you success!!
Cheers
ariel