Primary school gone wrong

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My 8 year old son, was looked into for ADHD ad ADD, but was discharged on both and sent for speech help, and has hyper mobile in hands,

 

He gets one to one help with work, as his organising skills are not best and the work is hard for him, he is behind on all levels. I had a meeting with head teacher over his work as there were days he didn't bring in his book bag, so days homework were not due in, but now told to bring in all time so does.

 

The last day of term in february, he was off sick due to a voimting bug going around, so was not able to bring home book bag. when he returned after half term, he mentioned to his teacher that his book bag was in school and that he needed it.

 

On the wednesday i got a call to go in and speak to the head, who told me he had to tell my son off and give him dentention over the book bag, i thought it was my younger son and explained he left his in car and i bought it in later that afternoon, but was then told oh no it my eldest lad, so i explained to him it was in school and that no teacher had handed it to him and to apologise to my son.

 

end of day son comes out crying in floods screaming, i ran to him in fear, and was told that the head and another teacher had screamed at him calling in a liar, and then said to him oh you have a younger brother don't you, when he responded yes and gave his name and year over, they said well we going to look at your little brother as well as we think your mum is lazy! while gritting my teeth and cuddling my very emotional child back to the car, i returned to the school and had a word with the head who told me it was all my sons fault.

 

My children were late in for 1s time in a long time, due to my 4 year old have global development delay and physical disability with all over hyper mobile, we did a ride a bike to school thing and trying to get my 4 year old there was not easy, i explained to the head what had happened and why, he was ok with this as we have CAF meeting over my 4 year old at the school for when he starts.

 

Today my son came and said mum, what do i tell the teacher when they ask how my home life is? i asked what does he mean, and he said well they always ask me whats going on at home, he tells them nothing and that everything ok, but was then asked why we don't go out on weekends, he told them daddy works weekends and has the car, and we have not way of getting his 4 year old brother out without the car, as he can not walk a distance, they didn't believe him and again made him cry.

 

 

when my son started he was ok then in year 3 he started chewing his sleeves, and i was informed then he had one to one with this teacher, then the teacher went on maternity and he didn't chew, now she back and teaching him again he chewing. im at a loss what to do, I'm viewing other schools to get them out, as he constantly being told off for not meeting there targets for the government needs on sats etc. He is always in tears of he can't finish his homework so I've resorted to doing it for him, so he writes it and i tell him the answers he can't get them.

 

Ive spoke to my other childs teacher who explained my son above average and that there is no need to worry, I'm also concerned over my 4 year stating if he like this with my 8 year old i worry about my youngest he can't handle being shouted at, as it will make him hide in a shell and won't come round unless I'm there and can't go toilet and I've already been informed that a big no! I'm moving them but would still like them to be invistaged over this but how

 

 

so sorry for all the spelling mistakes I'm typing angry and i shouldn't

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