Harassment warning

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As is often the case with our problems, we can see an answer to other peoples problems, but can't fix our own.

 

What seems unimportant to some people can be of great importance to the person affected.

 

The trouble with letting things go.............is, people do not realise you are being reasonable and go on to take further liberties, then when you have had too much you do something silly................better to stop it early than let it go and stew over it.

 

I have a personal problem with people and try to limit social contact, I try and analyse things and thought about this, if it was a friend living next door it wouldn't worry you, so I wonder if the idea would be to make friends, he probably has his own issues with you, I don't know.

 

Anyway waffling a bit, just wanted to say, although not a big thing to others, it is to you, so is important you do something if it's bothering you.

What harm is caused by them parking on your drive? How long are they there for?

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Agreed.

 

When anyone makes a complaint, they should have in mind, what they want to achieve ie: money back, up grade, another holiday or new goods etc

All you will get from the Police is an apology if you're lucky and even then, it's not worth the paper it's written on.

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I think they took up the complaint on the neighbours say so of the facts, which were incorrect.

I'm still not sure what exactly the Police have done wrong in this case.

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Ok I'm on your side, I thought you just wanted an apology, sorry.

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The police are paid out of public funds to a job and they should do it in a professional manner, if you thing that I expect to get an apology off of the police and I will leave it there you are wrong.

 

My next step is to apply for an injunction to keep my neighbour off of my property and obey his covenants.

 

I have put up with this mans nonsense for nearly seven years, but no more.

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I think it needs to be considered another way.

 

The neighbour only has a right to go on and cross your property.

 

If we forget that for a minute and say that the drive is yours, not your neighbours ( which appears to be the case) then parcel deliveries should not park on your drive, simple.

 

Will your neighbour share the cost when repairs are necessary from constant traffic, I bet not.

 

Now to be fair to the parcel man, does it look like it might also be your neighbours property. Parcel men park anywhere, usually blocking the road and you have to wait until they are ready. Then again we all use them.

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Out of interest do the deeds say he has to share repair costs to the drive he has right of way over.

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What's your plan now

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How about writing a letter to him and forward it to the police to give him.

Any suggestions please I want to contact this neighbour and give hime 14 days to provide copies of document that states he has parking rights on my property.

Problem have contacted a few solicitors asking them to write the letter for me, they won't unless they get the whole case.

Do I write to the neighbour and risk getting arrested.

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Well they took the neighbours side without proof and got involved in a petty dispute when it suits them.

The Police won't get involved and do that.

 

They are not a postal service for petty neighbour disputes.

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Sorry couldn't resist ;-)

Don't be obtuse it's not the same and you know it.

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Thats promising, most of the time the police don't take sides and they may have also had stern words with him.

 

If thats the case and things improve, then although its hard, I would be inclined to slowly make the peace, just start with greeting him good morning etc.

 

I appreciate he's in the wrong, but you can be the bigger man and at least try, even accepting a parcel if he's out. In the end he will probably start thinking you aren't as bad as He thought and you will get on.

 

I hope it all turns out, life is bad enough with out all the troubles we cause ourselves .

 

You can still smile and know inside that he's a tos~~er just don't remind him.

 

Strange that since neighbours claim to the police there has not been one courier van on my property, which is nearly two weeks.

Strongly suspect that somebody might have told him the trouble he could be in with his false claims.

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I'm sorry you think it's to late to try and live with this man peacefully.

 

I've lived in a place where the neighbours annoyed me and it does take over your life, but then I am a recluse and avoid as much social contact as I can ( I get upset and sort things out my way and get into trouble).

 

Also sorry to think you were a man, obviously my sexist side showed me up, I am impressed with your strength and spirit.

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fingers crossed

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Was this a courier company that you had already spoken to?

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He's tough ;-)

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Surely your CCTV should show they approached you and they would need to explain why. I think another call to the police is in order.

 

Why is he bringing this up again after 2 yrs and although he didn't touch you, I'm sure you were intimidated.

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Something to lighten your mood, a little bit of humour for you as this reminded me of a joke.( not saying your situation is in anyway a joke).

 

A man hears a noise in his garden and looks outside to see two burglars breaking into his shed.

 

The man rings the police and tells them if they come round now, they will catch the burglars in the act, the police say they are too busy at the moment , short staffed and will send someone round when they can.

 

The burglars remain and are emptying his shed into a van, this is going on for a few hours and the man has rang the police three times and gets the same story.

 

The man then rings the police again and tells them that they don't need to hurry any more as the man has shot the burglars.

 

Within 2 mins 6 police cars, a van full of police officers and a helicopter arrive.

 

The burglars are still emptying the shed and a senior police officer say's to the man " I thought you said you had shot them" and in return the man say's " I thought you said you were short staffed and couldn't send any one round"

 

Boom, Boom ;-)

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I would ask them if I could help with the loading ;-)

 

Great news

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She's still drunk from the celebration party ;-)

 

 

1lawrie, can you be so kind so as to inform us all of this matter? What is the situation now?

 

Kind regards

 

The Mould

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Sorry to hear this..........I thought your problems would be over, with new neighbours.

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Or they mentioned it, but put the blame on you, which has made the new neighbours believe this and are being difficult with you.

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Some people are also just ignorant, what they see as acceptable is not the same as other people think.

 

Parking across someones drive, while they pop in the newsagents, blocking the road while they talk to a friend coming the other way etc, etc.

 

Sorry I think I would have to say something, before they get too comfortable.

 

You could also get one of those clamping companies involved ;-)

 

Failing that, do it the old fashioned way, the only way they understand, probably not condoned on here though ;-)

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A card sounds a good idea, I would have a problem approaching someone.

 

I'm not sure your insurers are giving good advice and surely they should be doing the work.

 

They asked you to write asking what his problem was, well we don't know he has a problem, just a perceived one from watching an hour long conversation. The new neighbour might have been trapped and had to listen, he would hopefully not judge until he had been exposed to unwanted treatment.

 

I don't want to re read all the posts, but is the new neighbour taking liberties, or just being a little bit forgetfull, by parking near his property to unload his belongings.

 

I think it does need a word to explain the covents and that the last person didn't repect this. I think if you asked him if he had a problem, he would have to say no, because i can't see he has a problem, even I wouldn't knock him out straight away ;-) .

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Now your in trouble ;-)

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You really need to go and have a word, nip it in the bud.

 

Getting to the point that I feel like coming over and speaking too them .

 

Get the kettle on ;-)