Re: adhd/autism

[maybelline]

The National Autistic Society - Home

 

Hi mrsc, do have a read round the nas website, they have lots of great info and will help you identify what is good advice and what is just subjective rubbish which unfortunately still abounds on this subject, good luck.

[maybelline]

thats great mrsc, the thing to remember is there are different schools of thought on autism, what it is, what is best to do to support, and this tends to come from the different models of disability, i.e. medical or social. old fashioned ways of thinking, (the parents to blame) can also be subconsciously at work no matter how well trained professionals are depending on their own upbringing - the more you know the better equiped you will be to ask for support and also not have the wrong kind of support pushed on to you, I harp on about this because it can make all the difference in autism, support has to be finely tuned so to speak, best wishes:)

[maybelline]

mrsc, thats great that it went well, bookworm is absolutely spot on, you just dont know what could be upsetting him, remember it is ok to be upset, think of the last time you slammed the car door or tutted in a queue, it is more pronounced for many of the spectrum, you are doing fine. re your daughter, dont worry, believe it or not, the lows get better with time even if you do nothing, work out what you can realistically do and thats enough, as parents we seem to be continually in 'help' mode but if you get too down yourself you will be no good to anyone most importantly yourself,

so have that cuppa and take five, best wishes.

[maybelline]

hi, mrsc, great to hear you had some good news:)

[maybelline]

you must feel releived to at last know how to proceed, well done:)

 

the hardest thing next is to identify in what way AS affects your child/young person as each is unique, however, its just a matter of watching, dont assume everything in the textbook will or will not happen. good luck.

 

oh and another you wont often hear about, dont let the latest special interest be AS itself! this will mask what is really going on, what can and cannot be achieved, best wishes.

[maybelline]

hello daftada, welcome to CAG - yes, my boy was hopeless at sports, shoelaces, left and right, riding a bike etc but now is an adult, a martial arts competitor, and mountian bikes regularly, it can all change, I am glad you have discovered this, nothing is set in stone, change is possible especially as you grow up:)

[maybelline]

thanks, I will have a look:) IMO being around positive speaking and doing folks is really important and much as the help and advice is appreciated, local authorities and agencies can be abit 'focused on the dis- ability' instead of ability! :)