Hi guys. Will do a major update once I get mum home. Thanks for all the information and support.

I dug my heels in, refused to compromise and mum is coming home once they can get a care package in place.

The bottom line is that if going into a care home was in my Mum's best interest - it isn't, she is terrified of going into one - then the hospital would have discussed it with me honestly. They didn't. They panicked as soon as I said that mum and I would refuse to go in, got an urgent DoL. In my opinion the DoL was obtained fraudulently. It will be challenged

Thank you everyone. I hope for the best and appreciate your efforts but I really fear that this is a stitch up and the fix is in.

Man in the middle : obviously I don't know your background but you seem knowledgeable. Do you think abuse of process is enough to get the DoL overturned?

Mate, seriously, please respect my wish to keep the thread specific to my Mum's problem

That's what I am working on. I think a care home is a massive infection risk and infection risk is one of the many things that being cared for at home by me would prove the safest option. I think that the hospital is blatantly lying to get mum out. I realise that if she comes home changes will have to be made for her but I can accept that. I can offer a great support package and a network of friends. Mum is terrified of going into a care home and her spirit is already low because of the stroke. Going into a care home will be massively detrimental to her wellbeing and cannot be her best interest

Thank you HB that's just what I was going to say. This is obviously a very worrying situation for me. I'm happy to discuss the matter in abstract elsewhere but please keep this thread for advice and response to mum's problem

They shouldn't misuse emergency procedures to fraudulently put people who should be protected under the capability act in care homes against their wishes. That is abuse.

I have been my Mum's full time registered carer for several years. That is my job. She will not be alone during the day. The couple next door are both trained carers and say that they would sit with mum if I needed a break. Mums best friend is a trained first aider who would sit with her. Several of my friends would help. In an emergency one of mum's friends is a paramedic. Subject to availability he would sit with Mum. I think standard policy for the local social service is to assign therapists and carers to visit if I manage to get her home.

I plan to challenge the DoL.

That's very possible

I have been my Mum's registered carer for several years. Her mobility is worse now of course but I think that I could cope. I think that the standard procedure if I manage to get her home is to have carers pop in a couple of times a day and therapists twice a week.

Thank you HB. There are some great people on this forum

One more point that I had forgotten to include. Mum has been in hospital for a few weeks but no one felt a DoL was necessary until I said that mum's wishes were not to go into a care home. Within an hour an urgent DoL was issued without any discussion with me. Is it any wonder that I am concerned