We are currently awaiting a court date after sending in the directions questionnaire, on which I stated my willingness to mediate.
I suggested mediation privately at the end of last year and she stated in an email that she was willing to engage with the process
but she did not attend a consultation when the mediation service contacted her.
I had been overpaying for 4 years and also paying towards the car.
I had also given my car as a deposit.
In short I pretty much gave her what she wanted,
the problems started when I looked myself at what I should have been paying and realised I had been taken for a ride.
When I got the claim I was more angry that she wasn't prepared to pay for mediation but she would pay to place a claim.
My defence stated that the car payments were a verbal agreement as were the number of days access to my children which she stopped late last year.
In my view it was a matter for mediation,
I was more than happy to keep paying I just wanted to see my kids.
I offered to reinstate payments to prevent the animosity of court action if my access to the children was reinstated but she refused.
Does the fact that she declined mediation or any offer matter to the court?
If it's down to pure money then I think the overpayments ive made for 4 years should count towards it?
Thank you for the responses so far,
I realise I was a bit too vague in the first post.