Thanks, i had been told that, its more the fact he can just hold up so much, and obviously not support his children, and i feel like i have everything to be responsible for whilst he just walks away.

Hi, I am wondering if anybody could give me some advice. I split with my husband nearly two years ago on the ground of domestic violence after 16 year together. The short version is I am still waiting to go to Crown Court to see this through, and within all of that time he has not financially supported, or seen our three children. Due to the nature of what happened, my children would only see their father in a contact centre, but he refused, hence it never taking place. I contacted the csa and its I now with a baliff, but they are struggling to locate him, they say, even though I have provided both of his parents addresses, last known work, car, NI number and his new address with his gf and their new child. He also refuses to sign our divorce papers, and I see it all as power and control on his part, or to try and hope I will give up with taking him to court for what he did to me... this I can shoulder, but I feel he should pay for the three children he brought into the world, the same way in which I do, and I really want to know what else can be done, if anything. Sorry for the long winded description !