so would you advise that i meet with HR and inform them of the basis on which i will make a formal grievance? i understand the lack of interest will be due to a general lack of 'meat' and the disruption it would cause the company to arrange investigative interviews though i still feel that is severely inappropriate that a superior talk casually to the subordinate in an inflammatory manner based on a fiction created only to tip the balance in an aggressive way. using the word b*****d? come on! 2014 and this is how managers 'manage' and get away with it?! just to reiterate. the manager told me that someone we both know(?) told her that i had called her a b*****d. hardly professional is it? if what she said was true then why would a normal manager not make a record of this themselves? i just cant believe that in this day and age someone can get away with making up such childish lies and try to use them to wield their wand of authority over me. personally i think that this person should be fired and nothing less.

that is very fair advice sidewinder. there hasnt been a document catalog of grievances but im hoping that were i able to be reinstated that it might be something we could do collectively to make this person consider the consequence before playing us with this 'simon says' silliness. we are a good team, perform well and meet all expectations and targets and now we are demoralized and pressured to make this person gleam in front of the company. ideally i would like my job back though im not sure in which order i should approach the situation. ask for my job back and explain why i walked out or make the formal grievance and hope that i would be offered my position back-very unlikely. i think that this person was cooking her goose with me and i have messed up with my emotional response somewhat.

which question am i side stepping? of course i walked out from a situation where i felt i was being psychologically and emotionally abused. what else would i be expected to do? just go back to my work place and pretend nothing had happened? if i had the sense and stamina to tolerate the accusation i would have called head office and put it on record before leaving-but thats not how smoothly things run in the real world.

sidewinder-if your neighbour said to you that you have stolen his shower gel and you have no idea what he is talking about then it is not your duty to prove your innocence..nor are you obliged to prove your neighbour is a delusional trouble maker. i didnt say i know the person who made the allegation to the manager-it was the manager who said to me that it was a person that we both know and i have no idea nor do i know anyone who would say such a thing so i can only guess that it is a creation of her own troublesome imagination. i have worked at this branch for 10 years and the manager has worked here for 1 week and already upset absolutely everybody. yes it is indeed a playground argument and had it happened 45 years ago i might not have even mentioned it to my parents on my return home from infant school. the problem is that we are both adults and only one of us is acting like one and i think that a person with this attitude shouldnt be working in a position where they get to be abusive with their 'power'. my history with my previous manager is absolutely amazing. it is indeed a defeated stance with the tail between the legs when you let another human being walk all over you and lie about you only because she thinks she can and because people like yourself allow it. im sorry that i am not so spineless otherwise i might be a better employee. again-no one 'let' anyone walk out of their job, they did it entirely of their own free will and i doubt they told anyone of their reasons for doing it for fear of staining their next application for employment.

no stu-my grievance is with my manager making this accusation against me that i had allegedly called her a 'xyz'. the manager hasnt investigated anything and when i was told that she had heard that i had called her an 'xyz' it was completely off the record and i can say with certainty that it was meant for my ears only.

renegadeimp-no one has 'let' anyone leave their job. people are free to terminate their employment for whatever reason with no notice, no explanations..and thats what they have done. sadly. rebel-yes! thank you. informal grievance! ..and yes i am sure i can count on the backing of other members of staff who might submit their own informal grievance themselves.

in the heat of the moment yes i walked away from my position at this branch. i was after some constructive advice actually and wanted more to discuss the events that led to my grievance. i refuse to accept this defeated stance you advise and would prefer to hear from someone who might be better at defining the wrong doing of my manager in the first instance-this you seem to completely overlook.

what do you mean who has the power? there are x amount of us and one of them. no i am not a union member but i am prepared to stand up for myself and not be bullied. again-the issue is that my superior has made a false accusation against me that was intended to have a specific outcome to my detriment.

thanks emmzzi but im not one to roll over and die so easy. the issue is that my manager has tried to provoke a situation with a falsity and i would like to openly dispute this at a higher level.

hi today my manager told me that someone that we both know has told her that i called her a b*****d. as much as i dont get on with this person, as do none of the staff that work under her, b*****d is not a word i use and not one i would use to describe her. i had stood up to her previously and i feel that she has made up this story to try to create a negative situation that might cost me my place at work...or to force my resignation. she has been working at our place of employment 1 week and already 2 people have left due to her pushy superior corporate attitude. when she told me what had been said to her i denied it of course and having felt bullied by her previously i walked out of my job. my head office have already said that they are happy to transfer me to another branch but i will miss my workmates and would resent myself for leaving with this person. we all feel we are being pressured and bullied and forced to meet unrealistic expectations so that she may please her superiors and climb the career ladder. i really would love my job back but i dont know what my rights are or how i might go about approaching this person again.

i have been paying a direct debit to my electricity supplier based on their average usage estimates even though they periodically call or send someone to takes readings.. i have just moved out of the address and when notifying isupply energy they have responded in the mail with a £441 pound bill. ive never seen, had access to or been told of any outstanding monies owed and this seems a bit underhand that they suddenly drop this big bill on me dating back 10 months. just wondering how the world has allowed them to carry on with such behavior ? cheers all : ) ..just wanted to say that the service i bought was their 12 month fixed price electricity tariff. just wondering also if someone might tell me if the meaning of the word "fixed" has changed in the last 10 months?

Thank you very much for your help! I managed to contact the lawyers and they assured me that they are dealing with the case and going to cover all expenses. Such a relief...

ok got that thanks-that is what i was needing to hear! so it is absolutely the insurer who i have to chase.. thanks ganymede

i am a pharmacist-more qualified than your average G.P-but that is besides the point. i say dodgy because the doctor who has produced reports for the court wasnt even doctor, let alone the claimants(3 year old passanger/5 mph 'bump', psychologically scarred-following similar accident previous to mine!) doctor anywhere near the time of the accident! I understand what you are saying anyway-bit when should i expect my insurance company(at the time) to take over? am i supposed to push the my old insurer or the claimants solicitor...all the while informing the court that everyone is ignoring me.

have you not read the previous posts that have said the insurance company takes care of it? what you say cant be right otherwise why on earth would an insurance company 'offer' to pay out for someone making a dodgey personal injury claim against me? ...and whenever was i being negligent? ..and of what? final judgement says-no defence having been filed it is ordered that the defendent(me/my insurance company(which one?))must pay the claimant an amount which the court will decide...and costs.(!)