ok thankyou I will request a copy of the tape. they did read my rights at the start of the interview and said I was not under arrest and could leave at anytime. but when I asked to leave she refussed to end the meeting and also on some questions I said no comment, she told me I had to answer the questions. My dad told her she had to stop getting aggressive and she replied that I wasn't there for a friendly chat. I wish I could have taken a solicitor with me.! should I also send evidence in? I have a statement from my ex's mum and dad saying he lived with them I also have witness statements from neighbours who all say that I lived alone. I was accused that me and my ex were living together abroad but I have proof that it was only my mum,children and myself that travelled abroad.

I attended the interview under caution with my father as I could not afford a solicitor. All I can say was that it was awlfull it brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it, My Father had to interupt twice as the interviewer was getting aggressive (banging on the table) and slamming papers infront of me, they talked to me like ****, they had no photo or video edvidence they went on electrorol info and credit files and as my x partner came and went his name was bound to be on them. They went all the way back to my previous claim back in 2004-2006 and asked about him being on electro roll and credit file. Also because I still use my married name and my maiden name,- passport in maiden and driving licence in married, some bills in maiden and some bills in married, I have only done this thou confussion I am still not sure what name I should be using, they have also accused me of emmigrating whilst still claiming and lied in the interview by saying I came off benefits after I had spoken to them and was aware i was being invetigated, I am absolutly possitive it was the other way around and told them that I had no job house nor money behind me I wasn't sure if I was going to make a go of things or not untill I had a way of living. What gets to me is that I had Declared when my ex stayed at my house to my complience officer when I had my baby (prem) I had to stay in hospital and my ex stayed at my house with our children. they had a go at me for not telling them about changes in cirumstances and not telling them about having the baby, I answered that I did tell them I declared it to mr ..... the complience officer I signed the statment of declaration! they responded that they are not the job centre and that I commited an offence because I never told them! and yet where was the interview under caution held? at the job centre, and they expect people not to get confussed.?? Come the end we asked the interview to be stopped as they were trying to put words in my mouth and not letting me answer the questions. my interviewer responded that only she can decide when to end the interview so I Said I wont be answering any more questions, she told me I had to I refused and she said she had enough to charge me and read me my rights again. she then threatened (still on tape) that if I dont admit to anything now that she will speak to all my neighbours friends and family and what will they say I responded the truth if they new me well enough. and It Ended there. I am not sure what to do next do I need to send in any evidence? should I get copy of the tapes? should I complain? and how long aprox will I need to wait for a response? thanks for taking your time to read this.

Thankyou I cant believe how many people are in the same boat as me, I am terrified about the interview the last few weeks have been turmoile with my sister loosing her baby and Im scared im not strong enough and let them walk all over me. thanks again

I certainly wont be excepting any cautions I grudge paying back debts that have all been left to me anyhow due to my exs gambling affairs but this is a step to far!.I Havent been in a relationship with anyone else since the breakup so I am ony assumming its my ex however my brother is looking after my house at the moment and visits alot, There are a few things I would like to find out. Should I take a statement or just give them his mum and dads address? The house we got together and he is still on the tennancy, council tax in my name and all the other bills are all in my name, should I take them? I was close to my next door neighbour and she was aware of my situation should I take a statement from her also? I am sure I know who made the alligation one of my neighbours son sexually assulted my child, I had to go to social services and give a statement my neighbour told me she would make my life hell! and now I get this. Along with his stupid mail still coming to my house has not helped. I Feel sick with dread I have read so many horror storys. I got away to be the best mother I possibly can be But instead Im having panick attacks and im short and snappy. I am skint so will have to borrow and beg to pay my solicitor and for my flight, It is so unfair!

I AM IN SUCH A STATE OVER THIS I HAVE RECENTLY TRAVELLED ABROAD WITH MY MUM TO VISIT MY SISTER WHO'S BABY WAS DUE. AND YES I WAS PREPARED TO NOT COME BACK TRYING TO LIVE OFF BENEFITS WAS IMPOSSIBLE I HAD JUST TRAINED UP TO DO WAXING AND IN MY DREAMY HEAD THOUGHT HOW LOVELY IT WOULD BE TO START OFF FRESH IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY. SO ANYWAY CAME OUT ON 12 DEC MY SISTER SADLY GAVE BIRTH BUT THERE WERE COMPLICATIONS AND THE BABY WAS STILL BORN. I HAVE STAYED OUT HERE WITH MY CHILDREN TO GIVE MY SISTER AS MUCH SUPPORT AS POSSIBLE. I CALLED THE JOB CENTRE TO ADVISE THEM OF MY SITUATION AND WAS TOLD TO KEEP THEM UPDATED IN EARLY JAN, I THEN CALLED BACK ON THE 2ND OF THIS MONTH TO COME OFF OF BENEFIT I HAD A CALL STRAIGHT BACK SAYING THAT THEY WANTED ME IN FOR AN INTERVIEW UNDER CAUTION I IMMIDIATELY THOUGHT IT WAS BECAUSE I CAME OUT HERE THEY WANTED ME IN ON THE 16TH AND WOULDN'T TELL ME WHAT IT WAS FOR. I CALLED A SOLICITOR AND EXPLAINED MY SITUATION AND HE PHONED THE INVESTIGATION LADY WHO THEN TOLD HIM THERE HAS BEEN AN ALLIGATION MADE THAT I HAVE LIVED WITH A PARTNER AS A FAMILY UNIT FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME AND THEY HAVE ENOUGH EVIDENCE TO TAKE IT TO COURT, I WAS SHOCKED TO SAY THE LEAST MY EX IS THE FATHER OF MY 3 CHILDREN WE SPLIT UP IN 2005 AND WERE ON AND OFF FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS WE THEN MADE A GO OF THINGS IN 2007 MOVED TO A DIFFERENT COUNCIL HOUSE WERE TOGETHER FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND TOWARDS THE END OF MY 3RD PREGNANCY WE BROKE UP AS HE BLEW ALL OUR MONEY(LITTLE) ON GAMBLING AND FOR THE 2ND TIME I WAS LEFT AS A SINGLE PARENT MY EX SPENT A LOT OF TIME WITH OUR CHILDREN AND WAS STILL A GREAT DAD I DID NOT SAY ANYTHING TO MY NEIGHBOURS AND WHEN THEY ASKED WHERE MY EX WAS I WOULD TELL THEM HE WAS AWAY WORKING I LIVED IN A VERRY SNOBBY VILLAGE AND DIDNT WANT PEOPLE KNOWING I WAS A SINGLE PARENT ON BENEFIT. ALSO MY EX STILL HAD MAIL MOSTLY DEBT LETTERS COMING TO MY HOUSE AND I PESTERED HIM TO SORT IT OUT. THERE WAS ALSO A TIME WHEN HE APPLIED FOR A CAR UNDER MY ADDRESS AND I HIT THE ROOF BUT HE ARGUED THAT HE WAS STILL ON THE TENNANCY! AND IT WAS ONLY UNTILL HE GOT HIS OWN PLACE AS HE WORKS AWAY ALOT AND IS STAYING WITH HIS MUM AND DAD. ANYWAY CAN ANYONE ADVISE ME OF WHAT TO DO NEXT. THANKYOU:confused: just to add i have booking forms to show only me my mum and kids came out here and i have also spoke to my exs mum and dad and they said they can write a statement or even come along to the interview. what else can i take along with me to help?