WARNING...massive rant not directed at anyone in particular ahead. Feel free to skim over and move on.
BB, not taken the wrong way at all - in fact, I fully symapthise. Mum and Dad are the same - never been unemployed, worked their backsides off, only had two kids, bought their house - did absolutely everything that society asks of people. Now they're here at 67 and 70 respectively, and where has it got them? My poor Dad is a walking misdiagnosis, they seem to think that because my elder sister is a Nurse and I used to work in a dementia centre my Mum shouldn't need any support. Lovely idea, but not when we both work full time - how the hell are we supposed to help? My Mum has been ripped off to the eyeballs, firstly by CrapFest then by some dodgy debt management company. Where's all that support they were promised, from the cradle to the grave? I'll tell you where - it's beating a hasty retreat over the horizon. In the meantime, my Mum (who is the size of a house sparrow) has been left with my 12 stone Dad, a commode and a bed in the dining room. If he fell, he'd take her with him. Even the paramedics who brought him home said he shouldn't be there - they didn't actually DO anything about it, but they did mention he shouldn't have been discharged. Thanks for that, lads. He fell again 15 minutes after they dumped him on the doorstep, and ended up being readmitted.
The only reason...ONLY reason...things are starting to move now is because my Sister (God bless her) has started chucking her professional weight around, which makes her feel horrible. How people with no knowledge of "The System" cope is utterly beyond me. If the mark of a society is how we treat our elders, we're a bloody disgrace.
OK, rant over. Tomorrow's another day and another opportunity to plant my boot up someone's backside if this keeps happening.
BB, again, you have my full sympathy. I know how hard it is fighting for someone else, never mind having to do it for yourself. It's all wrong, it really is. Sending you lots of good thoughts in the atmosphere - it's not much, but it's about the best I've got at the minute.